During an interview in the set’s evidence room, Beatriz, who played Sofia Vergara’s character’s sister on “Modern Family” earlier this year, teared up as she described what it means to her to play a Latina whose ethnicity is not the butt of the jokes or the essence of her character.
“I remember as a kid watching TV and looking for myself and not being able to find myself very often,” she said. “There were very few shows I could see myself. I get a little emotional about it because it’s very important. Back in the day, people would go to theater to watch the human story. Now we’re watching it from our houses; to know that there are people who are watching it who can see themselves is a good feeling. I don’t talk about being Latina every day. I also don’t talk about what kind of deodorant I use. It’s something that happens or is a part of me. And it’s the same on the show. It’s almost monumental in its normalcy.”"
Stephanie Beatriz, who plays Detective Rosa Diaz on Brooklyn Nine Nine. (x)
Please, watch this show.
- Having sex every day.
- Saving sex for your wedding night.
- Never having sex.
- Having sex with different people.
- Having sex with one person.
- Having sex with a person of your same gender.
- Loving sex.
- Hating sex.
- Being loud.
- Being quiet.
The only thing wrong with sex?
When it’s not consensual.
Because that’s not sex. That’s rape.
Reblogging again because this post is so important.
Jill Filipovic, #SolidarityIsForWhiteWomen: Reckonings and Thoughts
My only reaction to this, right now, immediately after reading it, is this is how an apology should read, and be written. It is explanatory without being excuses, and it recognizing what behaviors have led to this point while also promising to do better. I do love Jill’s writing, so I’m trying to figure out how to separate that from this piece’s substance. But this section in particular jumped out at me as being entirely on the nose.
i disagree. i am tired of people “trying harder” and making this about individual absolution (i.e. i’m sorry, i’ll try harder). i have a long detailed critique of “privilege” organizing, which can be summed up by this super important essay by andrea smith.
jill has tried and has been trying. but jill regularly insists that “this is all my fault.” but it’s not just jill’s name that is all over hugo’s website/writing. jessica valenti, courtney martin, amanda marcotte, shira tarrant, jill, almost all of the books that each of these individuals have written, jezebel, xojane, as well as the actions supported by this same group: slut walk and femfuture …yes, jill was still being mentioned on his website as late as feb 2013. but he was also defending femfuture as late as april. and hell, he was defending ALL the white women against the “abusive cudgel” of *women of color* just within the past week. carefully taking the time to frame this: he was abusive, and they were tricked.
but even if i agree that all the women were abused and manipulated—that is *not the point*. the point is why do misogynists make great informants?
On Democracy Now! Malik Rahim, former Black Panther and cofounder of Common Ground in New Orleans, spoke about how devastated he was by Darby’s revelation that he was an FBI informant. Several times he stated that his heart had been broken. He especially lamented all of the “young ladies” who left Common Ground as a result of Darby’s domineering, aggressive style of organizing. And when those “young ladies” complained? Well, their concerns likely fell on sympathetic but ultimately unresponsive ears—everything may have been true, and after the fact everyone admits how disruptive Darby was, quick to suggest violent, ill-conceived direct-action schemes that endangered everyone he worked with. There were even claims of Darby sexually assaulting female organizers at Common Ground and in general being dismissive of women working in the organization.  Darby created conflict in all of the organizations he worked with, yet people were hesitant to hold him accountable because of his history and reputation as an organizer and his “dedication” to “the work.” People continued to defend him until he outed himself as an FBI informant. Even Rahim, for all of his guilt and angst, chose to leave Darby in charge of Common Ground although every time there was conflict in the organization it seemed to involve Darby.
sound familiar? (and to be careful here, i’m not trying to equate the physical violence and infiltration with what hugo did, i’m pointing to the situation of “heart break” and “grief” and “sympathetic but ultimately unresponsive ears” etc.
this is not about somebody’s “grief” “personal responsibility” “mistakes” “manipulation” etc.
this is about white solidarity enacted through liberal reformism.
i don’t care if every single white feminist stands in a line and apologizes one at a time. i *really* don’t care. i know some people need that and i wouldn’t take that away from anybody who needs it. but i personally would just get up and walk out. i don’t need an apology and i don’t WANT an apology. i want women of color feminists in california to never EVER have to go through ANY white man to organize EVER. I want a space where women who were almost murdered by their ex’s are centralized. i want women of color to be believed and prioritized. i want all foundations OUT of feminist spaces. i want to be able to self-publish and not have to worry that my words will be “recycled.” i want so much more than this. i want a *movement.*
i don’t even know what “trying harder” means. trying harder at what? being nice?
andrea smith offers a suggestion for possible moving forward:
By contrast, instead of thinking of safe spaces as a refuge from colonialism, patriarchy, and white supremacy, Ruthie Gilmore suggests that safe space is not an escape from the real, but a place to practice the real we want to bring into being. “Making power” models follow this suggestion in that they do not purport to be free of oppression, only that they are trying to create the world they would like to live in now.
I make the choice to practice creating the world i’d like to live in now with the people of Detroit and Michigan. maybe white feminists can think about this as they move forward.
Bolding mine. Because it’s a load of truth that a lot of people in the conversation are missing.
It was just a quick 3-sentence e-mail from another teacher, months after the fact, but having my effort noticed, appreciated even - is SUCH a big deal and makes me feel so good. I think that’s why I try so hard to notice when my students put in effort, even when the outcomes aren’t there… Maybe if you’re reading this, take a moment to notice someone. Maybe they’ve been feeling invisible lately and you’ll totally pick them up? :)